Valentine's Day is just around the corner and since my coworker Brendan just wrote about great gifts to get the man in your life, I thought it only fair that I should share the woman's side of things. Let's get one thing straight. If you think Valentine's Day is geared toward women and what makes them feel loved, then I'm going to say that you're pretty much correct. Women (and I actually mean me) tend to have a tangible love language and want to be reminded that they are oh so very special. They want to know that they are loved and cherished and the traditional gifts of flowers, candy and a card never go out of style. So here's the skinny on Valentine's Day gift giving.

  1. DO! If your woman goes to work, for heavens sake send flowers to her workplace. There's nothing better than showing off your man's love for you in a tangible way. Yep. We women love to have a nice bouquet of flowers on our desks that receive admiring and even envious glances from co-workers. Hit up Smith Floral. They'll fix you right up.
    DONT! do the funeral rose bouquet. That's the one-sided ugly thing that might look great at your Great-aunt Cora's viewing, but not on your desk.
    EVEN BETTER! Go for a beautiful spring-time bouquet or a basket of wildflowers that she loves. Roses are not always the go-to, unless she really loves roses. Valentine's Day Do's & Don'ts
  1. DO! Let her indulge in her favorite chocolates. If that's Godiva, imported chocolate or simply Reeses peanut butter cups, get her what she loves. If you know she digs through that Whitman Sampler looking for the butter creams, then get the woman some butter creams.
    DONT! I can't emphasize this enough. Don't swing by the Speedway and grab something. DONT EVER. Just don't.
    EVEN BETTER! Go early (unless you want to be standing outside in line in freezing temps) to Fabiano's and hand pick her favorite chocolates. Butter creams, nut chews, toffee crunch. They'll put together a box for you.
  1. DO! Find a card that expresses how you feel.
    DONT! Don't ever skip the card. That's something she can tuck away and look at from time to time as a reminder of your love long after the flowers have died and the chocolate has gone straight to her hips.
    EVEN BETTER! Whether you have writing skills or not, write a note that tells her how much she means to you or how great a wife, girlfriend, mother to your children she is and she will truly appreciate it. Find a poem online and write it out by hand on a blank card but make sure you attribute it to the author. No need to pretend you wrote it. The fact that you did some research and took the time to write it out means more than signing your name to a generic card.

So you can see that you don't need to break the bank or take out a loan to demonstrate your love. Diamonds? Meh. Be sincere and thoughtful and your lady will be happy. And, in turn, so will you. Happy Valentine's Day!

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